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Is your ponytail killing your confidence?

I’ve always been someone who wears makeup, does her hair and tries to look presentable in public.  People have often made me feel like this was just “too much” or “who am I trying to impress”.  Until a few months ago, I never really thought much about WHY I do it.  I have always wanted to look my best.  Even when I’m just staying at home all day, I will do my hair and makeup.  Lately, I’ve realized that my confidence level is so much higher than ever before. I feel comfortable in my own skin and I know that it has a lot to do with what I see in the mirror.  I don’t go out with my hair curled and my makeup on to impress anyone.  I do it for ME!!

When my hair is curled, I feel a little sassier & happier.  My curls give me a little pep in my step and a bigger smile on my face.  And now that I’m more confident in my makeup application (thanks to my newest endeavor), I have realized I’m more outgoing & more talkative and open with people and I know it’s because I feel good about my appearance.  If I have a day when I don’t wear makeup (which rarely happens) or I pull my hair back in a ponytail, I just don’t feel like I get as much accomplished.  I’m definitely not out and about talking it up with others as much & I just don’t feel as good about myself.

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Please understand this…I don’t think anyone’s confidence in themselves is based on appearance alone.  I just know that for me personally, I feel more confident when I feel good about how I look. If you are confident without makeup & with your hair in a ponytail, then rock it!! My point to writing this is to share why I always try to look my best.  To explain to those who don’t get it, why I always have makeup on or my hair done.  You don’t have to agree!

When I look in the mirror and I see those beautiful curls, my big brown eyes and those beautiful lashes, chiseled cheekbones and a pretty lipstick…I feel confidence! I’m not trying to impress anyone.  I just feel better about me when I’m put together.  I just feel happier and smile more these days.  I am loving how I feel. I love it when people compliment me on how nice I look sure…but I’m not going out every day looking for compliments.  I want others to feel the same way I do…comfortable, confident and happy in my own skin.  Far too many women are not confident with what they see in the mirror, but they can be. If a little makeup and some curls makes us feel better about ourselves, what’s wrong with that? A world with women who love themselves & feel good about themselves…that’s my mission.  Sure I could stand to lose a few pounds (ok 30). I could have whiter teeth and fewer wrinkles. I have one eye smaller than the other and etc. etc. but I know that when I feel I look my best, I give the world the best version of me.  Trust me, the world appreciates me more with a little makeup & curls! 😉

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And for the record, I teach my 7 year old daughter that she is beautiful without makeup and that Mommy wears it because it just makes me feel prettier and that’s the truth.  I see makeup as a way to enhance our “natural” beauty.

Have a happy, beautiful day!

~Michelle

I’m the only one who can give my kids a healthy, happy Mom

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There are so many busy, overworked, tired and sometimes crabby Moms in the world today.  I often think about the Mom I was just 5 years ago.  I wasn’t a happy, energetic Mom. Looking back now, I feel like I was just getting by every day. I did my many duties for my family with very little time for myself. I was a stay-at-home Mom of 4 kids and we did struggle financially back then. I tried different ways to make some extra money but in the end, I just didn’t have the time or energy. I knew there was something missing in my life. I knew I wasn’t taking care of me. I wasn’t eating as healthy as I should. I wasn’t as physically active as I could have been. I had extra pounds to lose but I it wasn’t doing anything to try and change anything. I was just going through the motions every day and counting down the hours every day until my husband came home from work and the kids went to bed.

Eventually my family and I relocated out of state and that was the best thing ever for me. I had a fresh start. I had to get out and meet new people and explore my new surroundings. I got to try new things and gained my confidence back. But I still wasn’t taking care of my health. One day it just hit me that in the end, I’m the only one who can give my kids a happy healthy mom who loves life. I knew my kids deserved a happy, healthy mom and I knew I deserved it. I knew I wanted to be around for them as long as I could and the only way to ensure that was to take better care of myself. I had to eat healthier. I had to workout regularly. I had to make time for me.

It’s taken me 5 years to get where I’m at and I’m still a work in progress but I am happy and I am healthy. I take care of myself and I definitely don’t dwell on things like I used to.  I’m in charge of my own happiness. If I’m miserable, unhappy, discouraged, depressed or etc., ultimately I’m the only one who can make a change in my life to make things better. Too many people complain about things they just aren’t willing to change. So stop complaining and stop being unhappy. Your kids deserve better and so do you. If you aren’t happy with your weight, guess what? You are the only one who can change that. If you aren’t happy with your current job or lack of one, you are the one to change that too. Whatever it is that makes you unhappy can be changed. You can find happiness! I honestly believe that being truly happy with life also means you take care of your health. Being overweight, sick, tired and dealing with all sorts of health ailments can really bring someone down. I’m here to help you in anyway that I can, please reach out to me. Don’t give up! Be happy and love life!!

Why that number between your toes is killing your confidence

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I was texting with a friend yesterday who recently started her weight loss journey with me and began using my nutritional cleansing program.  I was offering her some advice and encouragement after she had told me that she had gained a pound instead of losing even though she hopped on the scale because she “felt” she had lost.  I gave her some reasons as to why she might have gained that one pound only 2 days into the program and encouraged her to stick with the program because it works.  The entire time I’m thinking…here is a woman who has decided to make a change.  She has decided to give this program a try and for the past 2 days she has stuck to the plan, given up her diet soda and set her mind to do this.  She wakes up on day #3 and she feels great! She feels like she can see or feel a difference…possibly she has lost some weight even.  So her only true test of whether she has lost is to step on the scale.  She is excited and feels so good about herself but when she steps on the scale, she’s GAINED a pound instead of losing anything.  So, immediately she is crushed.  She starts doubting the program, doubting herself, maybe even doubting that this will even work.  Now, what if she hadn’t stepped on that scale? What if she would have gone about her day just “thinking” she’d lost and “feeling” a change in her body? She would have exuded joy, happiness and confidence because I truly believe that losing weight can make all the difference in someone’s attitude.  What’s really sad, is she probably has started shrinking those fat cells but because of that darn number staring at her from between her toes, she is feeling a bit defeated.  Why do we put SO MUCH value on that number? WHY?! That number doesn’t mean anything!! When you are trying to lose weight (the healthy way I might add), it’s more important to use measurements, pictures and how your clothes feel.  There are numerous reasons why your weight might fluctuate even 5 pounds from day to day.  It’s not always about what you ate or didn’t eat.

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Here’s a confession…I have been a bit obsessed about my weight and that darn number on the scale for most of my life. Don’t all women know what they weighed in high school? I think my driver license might still have that weight. Shhh…  And back then, I thought that I weighed too much! I’ve always weighed more than you would guess just by looking at me.  I was always told I had “big bones” even when I was a size 5 or 7. 😉 Just always remember that muscle weighs more than fat…if only I had more muscle! Anyway, there was a time in my life a few years ago when I was very obsessed with the number on the scale, so much so that I would weigh myself several times a day every day.  At the time I was using a prescription to help me lose weight…essentially I was starving myself because of that prescription.  It was not a good idea nor do I suggest that anyone try to lose weight that way…because guess what? That weight will come back unless you change your lifestyle!

Those who understand how the body works, know that weighing yourself daily, let alone several times a day is not a good idea! So, one day I decided that I wasn’t going to let that number control me anymore.  If I didn’t like what it said, it truly did control my mood for the day.  It was always in the back of my mind that I had gained a pound or two or whatever.  I would question why and get upset that I couldn’t lose.  It was making me miserable.  So, I threw out my scale! And for about a year, I didn’t weigh myself.  I only got weighed at my yearly exams.  Eventually sometime in the last year or so, I bought a scale because I wanted to see my progress and I told myself it would be different this time.  I wouldn’t weigh every day, several times a day.  But guess what…eventually I was weighing every day and that stupid number would then either get my day off to a great start or a grumpy one! Being in the business that I’m in, people want to know the numbers.  Showing “before” and “after” photos just isn’t good enough.  They want to know how many pounds you’ve lost and how many inches? Who cares! Just look at my results!! But since I started a new nutritional cleansing program, I have started to weigh myself again but I DO NOT weigh daily.  I weigh myself twice a week maybe and I stop myself from weighing daily.  I suggest to my clients that they not weigh every day either.  Don’t let that number control you.  Don’t let that number kill your confidence.  Let the way your clothes start to fit as you lose the weight be your confidence booster, not a number.  Take pictures so you can compare your “before” with your “after”.  I love looking at my “before” and “after” pictures.  I can see the changes.

So, here are my 5 week results…I’ve lost 3 inches in my waist and 3 inches in my hips.  How much weight do you think I’ve lost?

My 5 week weight loss results...how much do you think I've lost?
My 5 week weight loss results…how much do you think I’ve lost?

I am just curious to see if what your eyes see is the same as what the scale tells me I’ve lost.  Go ahead! Take a guess!! Comment below with you guess and down forget to subscribe to my blog to get your free gift!

Have a happy healthy day!

~Michelle