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10 Habits to Live a Happy Life

I believe living a happy life is a choice…

There is so much going on in the world and negativity screams at us from our tvs, radios, cell phones and computers.  Social media has really changed our levels of anxiety, stress, and even happiness.  How many times have you been on social media and seen someone posting [bragging] about something? I know for women, we often fall into the comparison game.  We compare out lives to the lives of those on social media and around us.  We must realize that those “glamorous” lives we see on social media, are not all that perfect, happy or wonderful.  We all have good days and bad days.  We all deal with the same situations, disappointments, highs, lows, stresses, and etc. Some just choose to only show the good.  I guess it’s better than those who turn to social media to only complain about everything in life.

But seriously, social media can make us miserable.  It can really exaggerate life.  You have to learn to tune it all out. You have to know that being happy is a choice.  You can choose to be happy no matter what life throws at you, what you see on social media, hear on the radio, read in the newspaper or see on tv.  I think of myself as a happy person [thus the name of my blog].  I’d like to share with you a list of 10 habits I do that inspire me to live a happier life.

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  1. Pray ~ I give it all to God.  I pray about everything.  I trust in Him & I have faith in His plan.  No matter what life throws at me, I trust that it’s all a part of God’s plan.
  2. Move your Body ~ I’ve been working out regularly for about 3 months now and I feel so much better.  I like what I see in the mirror which has given me added confidence.  My body can do things I never dreamed I would be able to do. I have met knew people and created lasting friendships because of a common interest.
  3. Eat Healthy ~ I have learned that eating healthier choices makes you feel so much better.  I do have days when I might have a cheat but for the most part, I eat healthy foods.  I try to eat organic and natural. And I drink plenty of water daily [half of my body weight in ounces].
  4. Ignore Negativity ~ People who feed on negativity bring me down to a place I don’t like to be.  It’s really hard for me to not let negative energy and thoughts get to me.  So, I’ve learned that I just have to separate myself from negativity.  If someone in my life is negative and just zaps the life right out of me, I’m moving on and pushing them out.  I just can’t do it!
  5. Laugh ~ I laugh a lot! My kids make me laugh. My husband makes me laugh.  My friends make me laugh.  Heck, some days I laugh at myself.  I have a bit of a sarcastic side…
  6. Listen More ~ When you listen to what people are saying and I mean truly listen to them, you become a much better friend to them.  They will appreciate you more.  So many people want to talk, talk, talk and never listen.  Just listen to what those around you have to say.  Also, I’ve learned that in certain situations, it’s best to just not say anything.
  7. Do What You Love ~ Find what really makes you excited & happy to be alive.  Take that passion and run with it.  Because our “work” takes up most of our lives, you must love what you do and if you don’t, maybe it’s time for a change.
  8. Read ~ Reading is what keeps me going in a positive direction.  I love to read books centered around personal development.  If I find myself in a slump or in a place where I maybe don’t feel so positive about things, it’s usually because I’ve not been reading. I do enjoy reading books for fun too but personal development is what I typically read these days.
  9. Breath Fresh Air ~ Get outside and soak up the Vitamin D [but don’t forget the sunscreen]. Take a walk. Breath the fresh air. Feel the sun on your skin. It does the body and soul good!
  10. Live Fearlessly ~ Don’t let your fears hold you back in life.  No one wants to look back on life and say they wish they would have done this or tried that but didn’t because they were too afraid.  I’ve done many things in my life that scared the crap out of me but in the end those things ended up being the best thing for me. I’m not talking about skydiving or anything like that [although that is on my bucket list]. I’m talking about life decisions…switching careers, moving out of state, walking away from an unhealthy relationship, going back to school, etc.

I truly believe that being happy in life is a choice that we make.  If you’re not living your happiest life, then maybe it’s time to make some changes.  You deserve to be happy.

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Have a happy, healthy day!!

~ Michelle

Why I began referring to myself as a “friend snob”

It wasn’t until I hit my late 30’s & early 40’s that I really understood friendship.  I have always had a lot of people whom I called my “friends”.  Many times over the years I’ve put myself in situations where I involved myself or spent time with people who were more “acquaintances” than friends.  As I’ve gotten older, I’ve really started to take friendship seriously.  I am not comfortable sharing my life secrets with everyone.  I don’t necessarily open up as easily as I did when I was younger.  I guess you could say that I’m more “guarded”.  I think that has a lot to do with the fact that over the years, I’ve learned not to trust so easily and I’ve gotten hurt one too many times.  So, this is why I began referring to myself as a “friend snob”.

I guess I’ve become a little “picky” about who I spend my time with.  Life is just too short to spend it with people who bring you down.  We should spend our time with those who build us up, encourage us, who are interested in our lives as much as we are interested in theirs.  I don’t want to spend time with negative people…you know the ones that complain about everything or have something negative to say all the time.  I want to be with people who make me laugh & smile and in turn I do the same for them.  I just want to spend my time with people who make me feel better and not worse.  If I leave your presence and I just feel irritated, annoyed, mad, disappointed, or any other negative way…chances are we won’t hang out much, or at all ever again.  Now this is not to say that those whom I call friends will never be negative or whatever, but for the most part they are consistently those who make my heart happy.

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When I was younger, I thought I had to put up with people even if I really didn’t want to be in their presence.  As I’ve gotten older, I know that I don’t have to be everyone’s friend.  I don’t! I will respect everyone and be kind to everyone but I certainly don’t have to give you my time.

My favorite things to do with my friends include some sort of food or drink and shopping! I love to go out for breakfast, lunch, coffee or even drinks.  I like that it’s an intimate setting where we are forced to chat and communicate.  Shopping with my friends…is just fun!! I have friends whom I may not speak with for weeks or even a month but when we get together it’s like no time has passed.  We just catch up and move on.  I am ok with that because we are busy mamas.  Life sometimes gets in the way of our friendships but no matter what, I know they will be there for me if I need them and they know they can always count on me.

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Friendship is a wonderful thing.  We all need friends.  We all need people in our lives who support us, look after us, encourage us, & even put us in our place from time to time.  You don’t have to be friends with everyone.  You get to choose who you spend time with.  I don’t know about you, but I do get by in life with the help of some amazing friends!!

 

My secret to living a happy life…

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Happy March!! It’s hard to believe the winter months here in Indiana are almost behind us! I’m not a big fan of winter, however I really do love the changing seasons and the pretty white snow after a big snow storm is beautiful.  It’s just too cold and messy! 😉

Today I want to share with you something that is truly important to me and makes me who I am.  I was recently invited to be a part of a Christian blog talk radio show.  After much prayer and thought, I decided to go for it! Yes, my plate runneth over with far too many commitments and responsibilities, but I felt like this was not only a huge challenge for me that’s way out of my comfort zone but it’s also a great way to reach people who are seeking spiritual health as well as physical health and wellness.  So, I will be talking about my Christian journey along a path to better health and wellness.  Hopefully I can inspire a few people…at least that’s my plan!

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Someone asked my husband recently if I was, “Always so happy!” This person is someone I have met in person only once but she sees my posts on social media.  I apparently exude happiness on Facebook which is awesome! Now, he told me that he told her that yes, my wife is always happy for the most part.  I have my moments…trust me! But he’s right! For the most part, I am a very happy person these days.  I haven’t always been happy and I’d say it’s been a struggle over the last 5 years or so.

You see, 5 years ago my family of 6 moved from the area where my husband and I grew up in Illinois to central Indiana which was 3 hours away.  We left behind our parents and siblings and of course friends, coworkers, neighbors and etc. for my husband to pursue a new career.  It wasn’t easy but yet it was something I was so excited about! I wasn’t happy living in our small rural community.  I was bored.  I was lonely.  I just needed more out of life.  We had a great small church community but this church was not “my type” of church.  Singing hymnal music just doesn’t get me as hyped up and happy as singing “I Will Follow You” by Chris Tomlin.  Anyway, back to our move…it was hardest on our family’s to see us move away because over the past 5 years, we’ve built ourselves a pretty amazing life.  We’ve struggled a lot! We’ve had financial burdens that we should never have had to deal with.  We’ve had family drama.  We’ve had disappointment and sadness.  We’ve had to make new friends and meet new people which has helped me get over my shyness a bit.  The best part about this move is that my husband and I really had to rely and lean on each other.  We also found a church home we love and our family is more centered around God.  I’ve found over the years that just when you think you can’t possibly take any more, God steps in and comforts you.  He’s always there for us.  He’s pushed us to almost our breaking point but in doing so, he’s brought us closer to him.  We pray and we know He’s got our backs.  I think what helps me to remain so “happy” is that I’ve come to accept that everything happens for a reason and that God has a plan for me.  If something doesn’t go the way I hoped it would or thought it should, I know that it’s because He has a plan.  Everything always works out exactly as it’s supposed to.  I don’t worry or stress about stuff like I used to.  I also don’t get offended as easily as I used to.  I pray a lot and I’m thankful for all that God has given me.

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We’ve been through some crazy stuff over the past 6 months.  Our home we were renting was hit my lightning which resulted in a fire.  At the time, we were looking to rent an apartment until the home we were building was finished.  The guy who owned the house we were renting had put our house up for sale so we were going to have to find a temporary place to live while our home was being built.  In the mean time, the entire process of fixing and repairing the rental we were in took way longer than it should have and we were able to stay there until our home was finished and we got to move in a week before Christmas.  It’s amazing how it all worked out!! It worked out exactly as God had planned for us.

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My secret to living a happy life is simple, stop stressing and worrying about the things you have no control over.  Reach out to God and let him lead you where you are supposed to go.  He has a plan for your life.  You may struggle before you find peace.  You may think you can’t take anymore pain, disappointment, sadness, etc but you can and you will come out on top.  Trust that He has your back and that He will lead you on an amazing journey.  He never gives us more than we can handle.  Going through those tough times is what brings us closer to him.  Knowing that He has a plan for my life, makes me happy.  Knowing that I’m exactly where He wants me to be makes me happy.  Turn to God and just be happy with all that He’s blessed you with.

Have an amazing Tuesday!

~ Michelle

10 Commandments for Busy Moms

10 Commandments for Busy Moms

I take my role as a Mom pretty seriously.  I always try to do the best for my family & make each day special.  I am big on making memories & giving my kiddos the best childhood I can.  I don’t try to be “perfect”.  I just try to be the best Mom I can be.  God gifted me with 4 amazing humans and they deserve my very best.  Now granted there have been many days that I have been stressed out and cranky but as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that so many times we get upset and cranky about the stuff that just doesn’t really matter.

I keep adding more and more commitments these days.  Maybe because my kids are getting older and are more “self sufficient” I feel like I can devote more time to other things.  I don’t know what I’m thinking actually.  I’m so busy most days! I did tell my husband recently though, that I’m NOT going to complain about any of it though because I am the one who signed up for all that is going on in my life right now.  I could have said, “No”, but I chose be a part of everything that I’m involved in right now.  Sure there will be days when I’m stressed, tired, need to cry, and feeling very cranky but I will do my best to not take it out on my family…that’s what friends are for! Ha Ha 🙂

Seriously, though as Moms we tend to sometimes take on too much and we need to really take a step back and look at what’s really important and weed out the stuff that’s not.  We are all different and we all handle stress differently.  Some can handle a lot that gets thrown at them and some can’t handle very much at all.  Know your limits and learn to deal with the daily stresses of being a busy Mom.

 Here are 10 Commandments that I will be printing and putting up in my office to remind myself of.  Some of these I REALLY need to work on.

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10 Commandments for Busy Moms

I. Thou shalt not be perfect or even try to be.

Just be the best Mom you can be for your kids but that doesn’t mean you are “perfect”.  We all have our bad days.  Don’t stress about it and move on.

II. Thou shalt not try to be all things to all people.

You can not please everyone so don’t even try.  Do your best and help people to understand that you are one person.

III. Thou shalt sometimes leave things undone.

It’s ok to leave dishes in the sink and laundry piling up in the hamper.  It’s also ok to take a nap when you need it if you can.

IV. Thou shalt not spread thyself too thin.

Don’t over commit yourself.  Do what you can with the time you have.

V. Thou shalt learn to say “no”.

It’s ok to say “NO”.  Really it is! You CAN NOT do it all so learn what your limits are and what you can handle without stressing out too much.  Say “yes” to what’s really important!

VI. Thou shalt schedule time for thyself and for thy support network.

Make time for yourself.  Go get a mani or pedi.  Take time to read a book or enjoy a hobby.  Spend time with friends who lift you up.

VII. Thou shalt switch thyself off, and do nothing regularly.

Make sure you take time to do nothing.  Give yourself a break.  Your brain needs to turn off and recharge. (This one is a tough one for me!)

VIII. Thou shalt not even feel guilty for doing nothing, or saying no.

Nope! Don’t feel guilty for taking some time to do nothing or for saying no to something you really don’t want to do.  You deserve a break so enjoy it!

IX. Thou shalt be boring, untidy, inelegant, and unattractive at times.

It’s ok to stay in your yoga pants.  It’s ok to not do your hair or makeup (although I rarely go without makeup).  It’s okay to be lazy!

X. Thou shalt not be thine own worst enemy but be thine own best friend.

Love yourself! Love all your faults, your wrongs, your rights, your worst days and your best days.  You are human & don’t forget that!

I’m the only one who can give my kids a healthy, happy Mom

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There are so many busy, overworked, tired and sometimes crabby Moms in the world today.  I often think about the Mom I was just 5 years ago.  I wasn’t a happy, energetic Mom. Looking back now, I feel like I was just getting by every day. I did my many duties for my family with very little time for myself. I was a stay-at-home Mom of 4 kids and we did struggle financially back then. I tried different ways to make some extra money but in the end, I just didn’t have the time or energy. I knew there was something missing in my life. I knew I wasn’t taking care of me. I wasn’t eating as healthy as I should. I wasn’t as physically active as I could have been. I had extra pounds to lose but I it wasn’t doing anything to try and change anything. I was just going through the motions every day and counting down the hours every day until my husband came home from work and the kids went to bed.

Eventually my family and I relocated out of state and that was the best thing ever for me. I had a fresh start. I had to get out and meet new people and explore my new surroundings. I got to try new things and gained my confidence back. But I still wasn’t taking care of my health. One day it just hit me that in the end, I’m the only one who can give my kids a happy healthy mom who loves life. I knew my kids deserved a happy, healthy mom and I knew I deserved it. I knew I wanted to be around for them as long as I could and the only way to ensure that was to take better care of myself. I had to eat healthier. I had to workout regularly. I had to make time for me.

It’s taken me 5 years to get where I’m at and I’m still a work in progress but I am happy and I am healthy. I take care of myself and I definitely don’t dwell on things like I used to.  I’m in charge of my own happiness. If I’m miserable, unhappy, discouraged, depressed or etc., ultimately I’m the only one who can make a change in my life to make things better. Too many people complain about things they just aren’t willing to change. So stop complaining and stop being unhappy. Your kids deserve better and so do you. If you aren’t happy with your weight, guess what? You are the only one who can change that. If you aren’t happy with your current job or lack of one, you are the one to change that too. Whatever it is that makes you unhappy can be changed. You can find happiness! I honestly believe that being truly happy with life also means you take care of your health. Being overweight, sick, tired and dealing with all sorts of health ailments can really bring someone down. I’m here to help you in anyway that I can, please reach out to me. Don’t give up! Be happy and love life!!