It wasn’t until I hit my late 30’s & early 40’s that I really understood friendship. I have always had a lot of people whom I called my “friends”. Many times over the years I’ve put myself in situations where I involved myself or spent time with people who were more “acquaintances” than friends. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve really started to take friendship seriously. I am not comfortable sharing my life secrets with everyone. I don’t necessarily open up as easily as I did when I was younger. I guess you could say that I’m more “guarded”. I think that has a lot to do with the fact that over the years, I’ve learned not to trust so easily and I’ve gotten hurt one too many times. So, this is why I began referring to myself as a “friend snob”.
I guess I’ve become a little “picky” about who I spend my time with. Life is just too short to spend it with people who bring you down. We should spend our time with those who build us up, encourage us, who are interested in our lives as much as we are interested in theirs. I don’t want to spend time with negative people…you know the ones that complain about everything or have something negative to say all the time. I want to be with people who make me laugh & smile and in turn I do the same for them. I just want to spend my time with people who make me feel better and not worse. If I leave your presence and I just feel irritated, annoyed, mad, disappointed, or any other negative way…chances are we won’t hang out much, or at all ever again. Now this is not to say that those whom I call friends will never be negative or whatever, but for the most part they are consistently those who make my heart happy.
When I was younger, I thought I had to put up with people even if I really didn’t want to be in their presence. As I’ve gotten older, I know that I don’t have to be everyone’s friend. I don’t! I will respect everyone and be kind to everyone but I certainly don’t have to give you my time.
My favorite things to do with my friends include some sort of food or drink and shopping! I love to go out for breakfast, lunch, coffee or even drinks. I like that it’s an intimate setting where we are forced to chat and communicate. Shopping with my friends…is just fun!! I have friends whom I may not speak with for weeks or even a month but when we get together it’s like no time has passed. We just catch up and move on. I am ok with that because we are busy mamas. Life sometimes gets in the way of our friendships but no matter what, I know they will be there for me if I need them and they know they can always count on me.
Friendship is a wonderful thing. We all need friends. We all need people in our lives who support us, look after us, encourage us, & even put us in our place from time to time. You don’t have to be friends with everyone. You get to choose who you spend time with. I don’t know about you, but I do get by in life with the help of some amazing friends!!